Has Sweet Valley High taught us nothing?

[prillalar]

This brutal honesty meme? I can't imagine anything worse than having a bunch of anonymous people tell me what they really think of me. That's something I really don't want to know.

Frankly, I don't think I want to know what a bunch of non-anonymous people think of me either. Though please do mention it if I sat in gum.

I also thought that anonymous con-crit meme a few months ago was weird, though not in the same way. I think crit is most useful when you can put it into context. Like if a friend tells you that a movie sucks, you can put that in the context of what other movies she's enjoyed or disliked and how her taste aligns with yours and whether she's smart or dumb. But if a stranger says a movie sucks, you have no basis to evaluate his opinion.

In fandom, even if you don't know someone personally, you can see what they like to read and what they write (if they do) and all those other little things that help us form an opinion of someone (like maybe looking up what everybody said about them in the brutal honesty meme). But if they're anonymous, how do you know how seriously to take them?

In other news, I like cheese.

Comments

[meiface.livejournal.com]

Well I think you are cool, talented, intelligent, and I like your icon. :D Do I get a sticker? (Oh, oh! I like your country too!)

[prillalar]

Hee! I'll try to give you a gold star here, but I'm not sure if it will work: ★

[reposoir.livejournal.com]

You speak the truth, Prillalar. And you have good taste- because cheese is good.

(Myself, I do it because I'm bored and braindead after work ;)

[prillalar]

Cheese is something we can all share. And I have nothing against other people exposing themselves to flames and trolls and sorrow and heartache. :)

I stopped SV after the Kids version. Though the TV show was pretty cracktacular.

[storyteller.livejournal.com]

Meh, for me, it's kinda a reality check; I have flaws aplenty, and sometimes don't see them.


I like cheese too!

Re: I stopped SV after the Kids version. Though the TV show was pretty cracktacular.

[prillalar]

I still read SV now and again, but I will never accept Final Year as part of the canon.

Cheese for everyone!

[svz-insanity.livejournal.com]

I'm actually still waiting for the brutality part. (I think I'm jinxing myself.)

Like Lauren mentioned above, I'm pretty much using it as a reality check. I've been in a fabulous mood so I'm most open to criticism right now. :D

Also, cheese is good. Cheese craving. Now.

[meiface.livejournal.com]

You're a terrible person who...um...uses her friends. And. You suck at writing and being nice to people. Your icons make me want to kill myself and I think I hate you because you have friends. D:

So there!

[prillalar]

I wonder how many people I made run to the kitchen to get some cheese. I should get a kickback from the Dairy Council.

[shikishi.livejournal.com]

yepyep.. never thought much of the anon meme's meself. they are an ok way to pass the time, I can see that, but honestly? they sort of scare me.

I personally like pie. in some alternate realities people would say we are a good match.

[prillalar]

I think this is the question that will determine our compatability:

Do you like cheddar cheese on your apple pie?

[bethbethbeth.livejournal.com]

I LIKE YOU AND THINK YOU'RE WAY COOL DESPITE THE FACT THAT YOU'RE NOT WRITING HP OMG!

*is anonymous*

[prillalar]

OMG! I FORGOT ALL ABOUT HARRY POTTER!

One day Harry was walking along the corridor and he ran into Draco.

"I hate you, Potter," Draco said.

"I hate you too, Malfoy," Harry said and he gave Draco a shove.

Draco shoved Harry back. Harry shoved Draco back. Then they shoved each other back and forth a lot until they were suddenly having sex.

"It was just hate sex," Draco said when they were done. "I wouldn't do that with someone I liked."

"Right," Harry said, and wondered if that meant he had to have sex with Voldemort too.

[arallara.livejournal.com]

Wow, I feel like I could have written this post. Right down to the liking cheese. *g*

Though please do mention it if I sat in gum.

Sure. Or a big piece of lettuce in my teeth, or an unattractive booger in my nose. Those are things I want to know, if it's tactfully pointed out by someone I know. You're totally right about the value of criticism in context, too.

See? This is my longer version of a "me too" comment.

[prillalar]

I wonder how many people *don't* like cheese.

People seem to enjoy these anon things, but they so easily turn into feeding frenzies once a little blood gets into the water. And I'm sure I annoy people on LJ, but they can tell me about it non-anonymously, suck it up, or stop reading my journal.

[cleverthylacine]

The burtal honesty meme seems like a bad idea to me, too. If you've been around fandom for any decent length of time and you have any strong opinions or have produced anything the least bit controversial, there will certainly be at least a few people who will jump at the chance to say nasty, negative, cruel things about and/or to you without fear of retribution.

[prillalar]

Oh, definitely. And while I don't want to stop other people from throwing their hats into the ring, it's really not for me.

[marksykins.livejournal.com]

Has Sweet Valley High taught us nothing?

All it's taught me is I now want to write Prince of Tennis with SLAM BOOKS! *digs out her copy of Slam Book Fever*

[prillalar]

Oh my god, you must, now that you've teased me with it.

Sadly, I don't have a copy of Slam Book Fever. But I do re-read Jessica Against Bruce almost every year.

[isiscolo.livejournal.com]

I totally agree. Criticism (or praise) from a writer I admire is taken more seriously than the same from a writer whose works I dislike.

And I really dislike the term "brutal honesty." It seems to be tailor-made for tears.

[prillalar]

I think the biggest appeal of these types of memes is hoping people say nice things about you, so you can bask in it, and mean things about other people, so you can read them and snicker. I do understand that, but I think they cause more bad feeling than good.

[octopedingenue]

Hear hear!

Hmm. Randomly: field hockey manga!

[prillalar]

Field hockey manga! It's awesome! Is there more? Where can I nab it?

[lovefromgirl.livejournal.com]

Oh, no, is it that time of year again? I swear the Hive Vagina gets PMS right around the middle of June...

[prillalar]

You have such a way with words!

[yonmei.livejournal.com]

This brutal honesty meme? I can't imagine anything worse than having a bunch of anonymous people tell me what they really think of me. That's something I really don't want to know.

Frankly, I don't think I want to know what a bunch of non-anonymous people think of me either. Though please do mention it if I sat in gum.

Word.

I have on occasion actually snapped at people who began by saying "Do you know what so-and-so is saying about YOU?" - "No. And unless it's something nice" [which by their tone of voice, it wasn't] "not only do I not even want to know, I didn't even want to know she was saying it."

Cheese is nice. I am going to have risotto for lunch. With cheese. And mushrooms.

[prillalar]

I think too much honesty would cause all our relationships to break down. There's so much we don't really need to know.

[honey-wheeler.livejournal.com]

Don't know about the gum, but I do think you rock pretty hard and I'd totally want to be you when I grow up except I already want to be Steve Kerr when I grow up. Sorry 'bout that.

I'm partial to peanut butter myself.

[prillalar]

Right back atcha, only when I grow up, I want to be Ramona Quimby.

[i-smile.livejournal.com]

To be honest, I eat way too much cheese. Probably three people's fair share.

I'd hope people feel free to be truthful with me, even if it's anonymous, without memes. Unless they're my mother or my father, who are obligated to be supportive until I'm at least 36 if I have the slightest chance of pulling through.

[prillalar]

Can there ever be too much cheese?

Only til 36? I think they're on the hook for life.

[emcyclopedia.livejournal.com]

... Cheese? :D ... Sadly, my cheddar went hard. Like a rock. *sniffs* I want some.

Anyway. Brutally Anon meme.

... Damn it. You're so smart andandand SMART. *______* I love your take on this thing, because I do agree. I'd like to know from people whom I've actually talk to and understand about the flaws they see in me. However, everyone has flaws, so I can expect some pretty bigs flaws pointed out to me and all.

[prillalar]

I weep for your cheese, cut down before its time!

I think it can be valuable to ask for feedback, but I just can't see where anonymous comments would be helpful for me. Plus maybe they would make me cry.

[chzbrgr-of-doom.livejournal.com]

I like cheese too :D:D:D

[prillalar]

It's the universal language. :)

[disutansu.livejournal.com]

*gives you cheese*

Your writing needs to be worshipped, really. That's how I see you. ^o^ I wish I knew you better but that's how things go sometimes. ._. And I wouldn't want to do the meme either. My self-confidence is as fragile as it is. It won't take more than 'OMGYOUSUCK' to shatter it. XD;; Okay maybe it will. *would like to think of herself stronger than that*

My mom always say that those who point out your flaws are those worth keeping (as friends). However, I don't think she meant pointing out flaws that came from nowhere. -.-

*hugs*

[prillalar]

Yay cheese!

Aw, you say such nice thing. *snugs you* I know I can be hard to get to know; I'm like that IRL as well. I'm not always good at putting myself out there. Partly, because I'm a bit reserved, and partly because I think I'll bore people. Also, I suck at IM chatting.

[slinkhard.livejournal.com]

I'm not opposed to anonymous memes of any kind, although I don't feel it'd be productive for me personally to enter my name there, for much the same reasons as you, and ataniell93 go into.

I am, however, very pro-SVH. Especially the Wakefield Twins/Bruce.

[prillalar]

Both twins at once? Kinky! Personally, I want to see Todd seduced by Mrs Wakefield.