You write posts like you have, venting. And posts like this one (http://www.livejournal.com/users/amanuensis1/39548.html), detailing all the things you are trying to do. Then, hopefully, lots of nice people come along to tell you they sympathize/empathize, and you pick yourself up and go back to the one-thing-at-a-time method, and try and make a dent in those lists.

Hope that helps.